Funerals in Cyprus..Dress code?

[Chaddy]

Sadly a good friend of ours has lost his partner ( they are English ).In the UK you would normally attend the funeral dressed all in black to show your respect.People have told us that is not necessary here in Cyprus.How would you dress??

[Jimgym]

I tend to wear dark clothes, unless specifically requested not to by the bereaved partner.

[PhotoLady]

The funerals in our village where very well attended by everyone but only the elder single ladies wore black, as it's their normal dress.

Ours was around 90% all Cypriot residents with only a few non-Cypriots.

There were lots of jeans and t-shirts, basically just normal day to day clothing.

[memory man]

You attend a funeral to show your respects, not to show off what you wear.

[WHL]

Ive been to Cypriot funerals, and like most people there, I would wear a black shirt/polo top, no shorts.

[LouiseCastricum]

I dress in black when attending a funeral.

[emgee]

When my wife died, she was Chairman of a local Ladies group and all the ladies who attended wore pink. I was very proud of them.

The rest of us wore casual and everyone looked very nice. A proud, but very sad day for our families.

Alan

[Dominic]

You can tell a lot about people by their attitudes towards funeral "etiquette".

When my Grandma died, we went to the funeral and took our young daughter with us. She must have been about 3 at the time. Some people were tutting about it not being the place for children etc.

This was complete and utter bollocks. My Grandma used to teach small kids, and absolutely adored them. She would have been much happier to see her granddaughter waving her off than some miserable, moaning old trout my Grandma was probably thankful to see the back of.

Mentioning no names.

[galexinda]

When my wife died, she was Chairman of a local Ladies group and all the ladies who attended wore pink. I was very proud of them.

The rest of us wore casual and everyone looked very nice. A proud, but very sad day for our families.

Alan

A lovely lady Alan, and very fitting for the occasion.

I wore a cerise pink suit to my Dad's funeral some years ago in the UK - wearing bright and cheerful colours was how he thought of me.

[Cappielow1]

Ive been to Cypriot funerals, and like most people there, I would wear a black shirt/polo top, no shorts.

A friend of mine did exactly that here at home. He ended up getting six months for indecent exposure.

Sorry, I'll get my coat.

[Cappielow1]

You can tell a lot about people by their attitudes towards funeral "etiquette".

When my Grandma died, we went to the funeral and took our young daughter with us. She must have been about 3 at the time. Some people were tutting about it not being the place for children etc.

This was complete and utter bollocks. My Grandma used to teach small kids, and absolutely adored them. She would have been much happier to see her granddaughter waving her off than some miserable, moaning old trout my Grandma was probably thankful to see the back of.

Mentioning no names.

That's the way it should be.

Not being religious in the least I've told my family that I want people in bright colours and to be happy (given that I can be a grumpy bugger at times, that probably won't be hard for them) and to tell funny stories etc.

A long number of years ago a friend committed suicide completely out of the blue. His wife requested that those attending his funeral wore the colours of the local football club, he had been club secretary for a couple of years and had organised a supporters club and bus.
Everyone did as requested and turned up wearing club ties, scarves and some even in the club strips.
The old minister was not a happy chap and was openly critical.
The first hymn no one had heard of and consequently, it was only the minister and literally one or two others who were singing.
More criticism followed from the pulpit.

The guys father in law got up an whispered in the ministers ear, then had a word with the Piper.

When the next hymn was due the old minister announced there had been a change of plan.

The Piper then began playing a melody of supporters songs (nothing vulgar or with sweary words) and his father in law began singing the words, the congregation joined in and the melody ended with Flower if Scotland.

Not a dry eye in the house!

Minister was raging and refused to attend the wake.

Point is, it should be the families choice.

[WHL]

You can tell a lot about people by their attitudes towards funeral "etiquette".

When my Grandma died, we went to the funeral and took our young daughter with us. She must have been about 3 at the time. Some people were tutting about it not being the place for children etc.

This was complete and utter bollocks. My Grandma used to teach small kids, and absolutely adored them. She would have been much happier to see her granddaughter waving her off than some miserable, moaning old trout my Grandma was probably thankful to see the back of.

Mentioning no names.

That's the way it should be.

Not being religious in the least I've told my family that I want people in bright colours and to be happy (given that I can be a grumpy bugger at times, that probably won't be hard for them) and to tell funny stories etc.

A long number of years ago a friend committed suicide completely out of the blue. His wife requested that those attending his funeral wore the colours of the local football club, he had been club secretary for a couple of years and had organised a supporters club and bus.
Everyone did as requested and turned up wearing club ties, scarves and some even in the club strips.
The old minister was not a happy chap and was openly critical.
The first hymn no one had heard of and consequently, it was only the minister and literally one or two others who were singing.
More criticism followed from the pulpit.

The guys father in law got up an whispered in the ministers ear, then had a word with the Piper.

When the next hymn was due the old minister announced there had been a change of plan.

The Piper then began playing a melody of supporters songs (nothing vulgar or with sweary words) and his father in law began singing the words, the congregation joined in and the melody ended with Flower if Scotland.

Not a dry eye in the house!

Minister was raging and refused to attend the wake.

Point is, it should be the families choice.

I agree with you but what happens if the deceased was a heavy metal head banger, ?

[Cappielow1]

Another raging minister I guess

[Chaddy]

Thanks to all who replied to my original post.Ive now attended the funeral and every one was dressed different,some in light clothing,some in dark,some in shorts ,some in long trousers,it appears there is no dress code on these very sad occasions.

[WHL]

Sadly I was notified only last night of a friends mum passing, the funeral is tomorrow, I would love to go in shorts, but I will be wearing trousers, I guess its the way we have been brought up to regarding funerals.

[Dominic]

This is a good way to be remembered...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bm2XPkqENaw

[WHL]

This would work for me

https://youtu.be/NtkrPDRYuyA

[jagwheels]

I think MM's comment was spot on. At my FiL funeral a guy turned up looking like a tramp & caught my eye so spoke to him. Turned out he was living rough on the streets of Coventry and said this guy always gave me a few quid when he saw me so I wanted to show my respects. That person is now in sheltered accommodation but it taught me a lesson. As we are on the subject perhaps your choice of music at you funeral may be interesting

Wife wants this & said I want everyone to get up and dance. Just hope I go first

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyTVyCp7xrw

[bromerzz]

I would think the relatives would prefer to have a well attended funeral and send off than worry about how people dress.